Last night I had continual baby dreams. It is so weird because I have never had dreams like this. I dreamed very specifically about Kate. I had a dream that she was this perfect, round faced, olive skinned baby girl with big brown eyes - just beautiful. I dreamed of her when she was about 8 and a little awkard and I remember in my dream looking at her and saying, "you are so beautiful." Then I dreamed of her when she was older, like in her 20's and she was this gorgeous successful woman. Jay had similar dreams last night it seems that the girl in his dream and the girl in my dream even looked very similar and we both had dreams that centered around being at church. Hmmmmm hard to explain but pretty darn cool.
So looks like our baby guesses were off just a bit - although it's not over yet. For some reason I still have a strong feeling about today. Probably just the dreams talking. Our agency did meet with the birth mom on Thursday - they met for over 3 hours! They reassured us yesterday that the family was very much at peace about the decision. The birth mom and her counselor also set a birth plan. We were told to remember to be flexible because just like any birth plan, it could change. The plan is for the birth mom to call the agency when she goes into labor. The agency will in turn call us. The birth family does not wish to se us again so we will meet the agency at the hospital at which time we will be admitted into the hospital and given a room of our own. Once the baby is born, the birth mom will have a chance to see her and then she wants the baby to go to us and we will tend to the baby's needs and start the bonding process. The birth mom wants to leave the hospital as soon as possible (should be within 24 hours). We will be discharged with the baby later. At that point, Jay and I plan, per our agency instructions, to stay in a hotel for 1-2 nights probably back in OKC. We will get to put to use our attachment parenting skills we have learned. Jay and I haven't quite figured it out yet but being the rebels we are we want to have some visitors as soon as we are back in OKC. Now the "rules" of attachment parenting say that Jay and I do all the feeding, changing and most of the holding for 2 weeks - the first 2 days being the most crucial. BUT........we think it is important for our families to bond too. So hopefully we can figure out how to take visitors in small doses right away. Afterall, we aren't the only ones who have waited this long!!!!
One of the things I have been thinking about is our Birth Mother gift. It is suggested that you buy a small gift for the birth mother to have at the hospital. I have thought about it since I found out about it at our class in June. It seemed nothing could even come close to the gift she would be giving us. But last night we were at Borders and I found it.
It is just a simple journal for her with a pen and a bookmark that I absolutely love. It reads, "Faith sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the impossible." I think it is just perfect. So today I am going to go get a simple bag and ribbon and wrap it up for our agency to give to her in the hospital.
Now for some good news - 2 of our best friends are moving to Wichita! WooHoo! We got the call last night that Mike and Debbie and Carter are moving to Wichita in September! I can't tell you how happy this makes me to have such close friends actually living close to us especially at this time in our lives. So for all of you out there that keep trying to lure us back to OKC, maybe you ought to give it up and hop on the Wichita train before it's too late. You know you want to - all the cool kids are doing it!
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